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http://www.rotatingcorpse.com/dear_diary/please-dont-promise-me-forever/3027.html

from smartstorming-blog.com

Innovation has become the benchmark of success, particularly in the current business environment. Companies in every industry are stepping up their efforts to become more innovative in the way they work, communicate and produce the goods and services they sell. But with such an objective, the obvious challenge becomes, how to identify the individuals within an organization who possess the greatest potential to innovate.

While everyone has the innate ability to engage in creative thinking, there are seven common traits that innovative leaders like da Vinci, Edison, Henry Ford and Steve Jobs share; seven traits that propel them to think outside the confines of conventional wisdom and imagine breakthrough concepts that change the way you and I live and experience the world.

The seven traits of highly innovate thinkers are:

1. Curiosity
Curiosity is the first step toward discovery. It is the “beginner’s mind,” a deep, child-like sense of wonder about the world, the relationship between different things and how things work.

2. Imagination
Before you can develop a new idea, you must first be able to conceive it, to envision the very possibility that it could exist. Innovation is fueled by leaps of the imagination, making novel new connections between seemingly disparate ideas, concepts or objects.

3. Intuition
Making decisions based on facts and figures is fine in many instances. But true innovation is more often born from that internal “knowing,” the guiding force, sixth sense or gut feeling to follow one’s instincts, no matter how unconventional or illogical the direction.

4. Inventiveness
The ability to change the status quo requires an inquisitive passion for “tinkering.” Innovators possess the desire to arrange and re-arrange ideas or things in new and different combinations.

5. Playfulness
It is when you get “lost in your work” that amazing things begin to happen. Time, self-consciousness, seriousness and any sense of limitation falls away, and challenges are handled with ease. The attitude of playfulness is, “Everything is possible.”

6. Flexibility
The capacity to suspend judgment and embrace two (or more) seemingly contradictory or unrelated viewpoints at the same time helps create a dynamic tension that ultimately stimulates creative resolutions (solutions).

7. Persistence
All the creative talent in the world is of no value if you give up before the work is done. Persistence, the passion, willpower and enthusiasm to overcome setbacks and discouragement, allows innovative thinkers to keep trying new possibilities until success is achieved.

Of course, there is no secret recipe for innovation. It requires an ongoing commitment on the part of an organization and the individuals within to relentlessly pursue new, better ways of doing business, and to never accept anything less than the best possible outcome. But these seven key traits are an excellent starting point for building your innovation foundation.

Start to recognize the individuals around you who naturally possess these traits, and encourage them to make frequent use of them. And nurture these traits in others who aren’t as naturally inclined. Acknowledge and reward creative thinking, responsible risk-taking and questioning the status quo. And in no time you will have fostered a thriving culture of innovation which can lead to only one thing: greater success.

Also: check this out: http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2009/09/27/100-ways-to-develop-your-mind/

Found this on Brazen Careerist. good read

Many things people strive for are actually byproducts of what the real goal should be. But by focusing on the byproduct instead of the goal, the desired byproduct is ever elusive.

Let’s look at a few examples:

Happiness

The real goal is finding activities you’re passionate about and consistently engaging in them.

That definition skews towards work, but consider spending time with people you enjoy being around an ‘activity’ and it can encompass romance and family time.

Becoming “Networked”

Lots of people want a big network, full of powerful influential people, but if you focus on that is the end goal it’s probably not going to work out very well and you’ll come off as very insincere.

Having a large, powerful network is the byproduct where the end goal is helping other people, building relationships or trying to make an important vision happen that others can get behind.

Making Money

Making money is a byproduct of focusing on creating value.

If you focus on making money, you might end up making a lot if you’re very driven, but if that drive was applied toward how you could create the most value, you’d make a lot more money.

The one caveat with making money is that it only captures the economic spectrum of “value”, but a lot of people are working on how we can measure other kinds of currencies and make them more fungible so that in addition to financial capital we can measure things like social capital and emotional capital.

Confidence

I can’t become more confident by saying to myself, “C’mon Max, be more confident”.

Confidence is a byproduct of being really good at something, which is only obtainable through practice and repetition.

Though often people can practice and practice and not improve. That’s why people will tell you, “practice doesn’t make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect.” While that’s directionally correct, a better answer is “practice in pursuit of perfection will allow you to increasingly approach perfection and achieve excellence”

Conclusion

The list goes on and on of things that many people try to achieve directly but are actually byproducts: Enlightenment, Love, Creativity, Status, Success, etc. etc.

It’s not wrong to want byproducts, but they are not things we can get, in the capacity we want, by focusing on achieving them directly. Byproducts are the rewards we get for living our lives the right way.

And by recognizing how byproducts break down into corresponding end goals it becomes clear there are no short cuts. When we care about other people, other people care about us. When we create value for others, we are rewarded financially. When we do amazing work, we gain respect. To live a rich life where we are happy, financially abundant, surrounded by amazing people and confident in our own abilities, requires cultivating curiosity, persistence, self-reflection, self-discipline, compassion, character, drive and many other esteemed traits.There is truth in the words that our external reality is a manifestation, or a byproduct, of our internal reality.

I encourage you to look at the things you want, and figure out what’s a byproduct and what’s the actual end goal that you should authentically commit to.

Quiet Confidence
by tammie renea

Quiet confidence means…

Rather than scold myself for my imperfections,
I accept them and realize my ability to change them.
Accepting my own imperfections also allows me to accept those of others.

Quiet confidence means…

Rather than mentally and emotionally “sleeping” through each day,
I choose to be fully awake…
to be aware of my own thoughts, feelings, attitudes,
and the effects they have on myself and others.

Quiet confidence means…

I am becoming aware of and choose to nurture my own talents and gifts,
both to fulfill my own life and to give something of myself to the world.

Quiet confidence means…

I am willing to acknowledge the deep down pain and fear that keep me “stuck”.
It means that I am willing to take the humble “baby steps”
it often takes to move myself forward.

Quiet confidence means…

Rather than beating myself up,
I will forgive myself when I fall back into my “old” ways
of negative thinking and behaving.
Doing this also allows me to be more compassionate and understanding of others.

Quiet confidence means…

I think for myself.
I ask my own questions and seek my own answers from sources that I consider reliable. 
As I learn, I use my new knowledge in positive ways.

Quiet confidence means…

I am not a “people pleaser.”
I do not carry the fear of rejection and abandonment
which would keep me from being myself.
This also helps me allow others to be themselves.

Quiet confidence means…

I make judgments through compassionate eyes.
I am not blind to injustice.
I am patient enough to allow the truth to come into focus,
and I am willing to take action whenever necessary.

Quiet confidence means…

Rather than avoiding judgment and criticism
by living within the safety of a tight cocoon,
I accept my responsibilities and my gift of freedom
by emerging and spreading my wings to fly.

Quiet confidence means…

I take full responsibility for my mistakes,
as well as for my accomplishments. 
When I make a mistake,
I humbly make amends whenever possible.
When I accomplish a goal,
I respectfully share my success and tuck it inside my heart.

Quiet confidence means…

I know I can only change myself and set goals for myself. 
I cannot change others to meet my needs or wants. 
I learn to meet my own needs and to fulfill my own wants,
therefore avoiding false expectations and resentments.

Quiet confidence means…

I do not accept abuse of any sort from myself or others;
nor do I abuse myself or others. 
A harsh tongue only hurts, never heals.  
Physical punishment only reaps fear and resentment.

Quiet confidence means…

I appreciate the gifts of body and mind.
My spirit is the life of me which dwells within my flesh.
I care for my mental and physical health
without comparing myself to others
or setting unrealistic standards.

“In quietness and in confidence shall be your strength”
Isaiah 30:15

Give others the same amount of leniency you lavish on yourself. People aren’t out to get you. They’re having a bad day or they weren’t raised with the right manners. Stop taking it personally.
get off your high horse, but learn to love yourself.

Be conscious of your anger and what is causing it. Anger often blinds our minds to the real root of what is bothering us. We often flip out at the closest target or the most recent trigger of our anger, when the underlying cause of the anger is deeper or lies somewhere else. You must develop the strength to be able to sit with your anger and sort through it. Once you can rationally examine your anger, you can find the root cause and address it. Part of what makes us so angry is not truly understanding what is pissing us off. Think about when a plane is delayed. When no reason is given for the delay, people get more angry than if a legitimate reason is cited. Understanding the reasons for your anger will help you defuse it. You can then rationally, but assertively rectify the situation.

You must settle in your mind the fact that the nature of life is frustrating and chaotic. When things fall into place, that is the true deviation. Dispense with your unrealistic expectations for life and you will find it far easier to roll with the punches.

intensity … hustle … energy … passion…focus…concentration

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
–Aristotle

“History will be kind to me for I intend to write it.”
–Sir Winston Churchill

“Focusing your life solely on making a buck shows a certain poverty of ambition. It asks too little of yourself. Because it’s only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you realize your true potential. “
-Barack Obama

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”
-Martin Luther King Jr.

“I’ll work to the point of exhaustion.”
-Kobe Bryant

“Dawg, you aint a nigga til u beat some niggas up. u feel me?”
-Jun Kwon

“no jesus, no peace. know jesus, know peace.”
-anonymous

do things of epic proportions

The infinite possibilities each day holds should stagger the mind. the sheer number of experiences i could have is uncountable, breathtaking, and i’m sitting here freshing my inbox. we live trapped in loops. reliving a few days over and over, and we envision only a handful of paths laid out ahead of us. we see the same things each day, we respond the same way, we think the same thoughts, each day a slight variation on the last, every moment smoothly following the gentle curves of societal norms. we act like if we just get through today, tomorrow our dreams will come back to us. 

and no, i don’t have all the answers. i don’t know how to jolt myself into seeing what each moment could become. but i do know one thing: the solution doesn’t involve watering down my every little idea and creative impulse for the sake of someday easing my fit into a mold. it doesn’t involve tempering my life to better fit someone’s expectations. it doesn’t involve constantly holding back for fear of shaking things up. 

sometimes things are gonna suck, but it’s never the end of the world.
take control of your life and don’t give it to others.
listening to others tell you waht they would do is of no value to you – it isn’t them who’s doing it, it’s you and only you can do waht’s right for you

CHALLENGE CONTROL AND CONFIDENCE

maybe it won’t work, but even if you don’t get the result you’d hope for, you’ll be an experience richer and that certainly isn’t a waste of time or anything you’d need to regret. think about how rayne would deal with a challenge. learn from ur experiences.

Believe in yourself and know that you did the best you knew how at the time, even if later you saw a better way. 
the world is a loud place. embrace the silence.
If you need people outside of yourself to validate you in order to feel good about yourself, then you’re giving away your control. It may feel good when others believe in, trust and support you; but if you want to keep your control, realize that you don’t need anyone but yourself to validate who you truly are.

Are your efforts to be in the here and now taking you out of the present?
I confess that there is something perverse in my nature. Whenever I hear someone presenting an idea with unusual conviction, and I sense even a little anxiety in it, perhaps revealed in excessive passion or the need to convince, I consider the opposite. For example, people often tell me how important it is to be in the here and now, and so I entertain the value of being in the there and then.
I understand the point in being present to whatever you’re doing, but the idea of being present takes you away from simply being present. It becomes a program and an ideal. To be really present you may have to stop thinking about being present.
So, let me say it publicly: From now on I will not be concerned about being in the here and now. I may frequently wander into the past and into fantasy. I want to be present to memory and imagination as much as to whatever is going on around me. In fact, if we ever meet, you may notice that I’m not present much at all. I’m the kind of person who easily walks into telephone poles and forgets what I just said or what I intended to do, so lost do I get in the rich world that is not visibly present.
Maybe this means that I’m not such a spiritual person. So be it. For me, it is not as important to be spiritual as it is to be.
Be more aware of the effect you have on other people. The more you respect them, the more respect you will get back. Respect their worth, their time and values and you will find they will respect yours.

Once upon a time there was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. But gradually, the number of daily nails dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the first day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He proudly told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
“You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won’t matter how many times you say ‘I’m sorry’, the wound is still there.”